:: Pitfalls on the way to becoming a healer :: 成為療癒者路上的陷阱

摘自 心靈光中心Love & Light :

http://divinelovenlight.blogspot.com/2011/08/pitfalls-on-way-to-becoming-healer.html

:: Pitfalls on the way to becoming a healer :: 

    成為療癒者路上的陷阱
   Jeshua channeled by Pamela Kribbe ( 下方有中文版本 )

Dear friends, it is with great pleasure and happiness that I bid you welcome in this place where you have gathered to hear me, an old friend of yours. I am Jeshua. I have been among you in my life on earth as Jesus. I have been human and I know of all that you go through as human beings in an earthly body and in an earthly life. And I have come here to help you understand who you are.

All of you who are present here and many among you who will read this text later on are lightworkers. You are angels of light who have forgotten who you really are. You all have gone through many trials on your journey on earth, throughout your many earthly lifetimes. And I know these trials from within.

You have now come to a point in your soul’s history at which you are completing a cycle of lifetimes. At this point you are more and more connecting to the greater Self that you really are, the Self that is independent of time and space. You are in the process of allowing your greater, immaterial Self into your earthly being, into your everyday life.

You still find it hard to keep a steady connection to your greater or higher Self, because you have forgotten that you truly are this great source of light yourself. Nevertheless you have all started the journey within and along this journey you have felt the desire, even the calling, to help others on their way to inner growth and self-awareness. It is natural, especially for lightworkers, to want to share your insights and experiences with others. You are all born teachers and healers.

From the moment you take it upon yourself to guide others as a teacher or healer, you are likely to stumble upon a number of pitfalls. These pitfalls are the result of certain miscomprehensions about what it means to guide someone spiritually. They follow from misconceptions about the nature of healing and your part in it as a healer. It is about these pitfalls that I would like to speak today.

What is healing?

What is the essence of healing? What happens when someone “gets well,” whether it is on the psychological, emotional or physical level? What happens is that this person is able to connect again to his or her own inner light, to his or her own greater Self. This connection has a healing effect upon all layers of the self - the emotional, physical and mental levels.

What every person is looking for in a healer or teacher is an energy space which enables them to reconnect to their inner light, the part of them that knows and understands. The teacher or healer is able to offer this space because they have already made this connection within. The healer has a frequency at their disposal, an energetic vibration which holds the solution to their client’s problem. To be a healer or teacher means to carry the energetic frequency of the solution in your energy field and to offer it to someone else. That’s what it is, nothing else.

Basically it is a process that can take place without words or actions. It is the energy itself that you have as a teacher or healer which has the healing effect. It is your enlightened energy that opens up the possibility for someone else to “remember” what they already know, to connect to his inner light, to her intuition. It is this remembrance, this connection that makes the healing happen. All healing is really self-healing.


To heal or teach, then, has in fact nothing to do with specific skills or specific knowledge that can be learned from books or by taking courses. Healing power cannot be acquired by something external. It is about the “frequency of the solution” that is present within your own energy field as a result of your own inner growth and clarity of consciousness. Often as a teacher and healer, you are all still involved in personal growth processes. Yet there are parts of your energy field that have become so clear and pure that they can have a healing effect upon others.

It is essential to understand that this effect is not something you have to work hard for. It is the client who decides whether or not to assimilate the energy you offer, whether to allow it in. It is the client’s choice. You offer it by who you are, by “being there” for the other. It is not by the skills or knowledge you have learned from anyone else that you have a healing influence but purely by who you are, the inner road you have traveled. It is especially in the area of problems that you have gone through yourself at a deep emotional level that you can truly help others. Your light in these areas shines like a beacon to people who are still stuck in these issues, beckoning them gently to get out of them.

In the areas where you have healed yourself from deep-seated hurts and wounds you have become a true master, someone whose wisdom is based on inner knowing and genuine experience. Self-healing, taking responsibility for your inner wounds and enveloping them in the light of your consciousness, is the key to becoming a teacher and healer. It is the ability to heal yourself that makes you a lightworker. This creates the “energy of the solution” in your being, which offers to others a doorway to their own power of self-healing.

When you are treating clients or helping people in your environment, you often “read” their energy. You intuitively tune into them when you listen to them, give them advice or treat them with energetic healing methods. However the client or person you are working with is just as busy “reading” you. Just like you are tuning into their energy, they are, consciously or subconsciously, absorbing your energy. They intuitively feel whether or not what you say and do is in accordance with all of you, whether it is matched by what you radiate, your energy vibration. They feel who you are, apart from your words and actions.

It is in the reading of you by the client that the real breakthrough occurs. When the client feels free and safe in your presence, when they feel surrounded by a type of consciousness that empowers them to trust their inner knowing, then everything you say or do takes on a healing quality. When your words and actions are backed up by who you are, they become the carriers of light and love that can take the client into the core of their own light and love.

Whenever someone honestly asks you for help, this person is open to your energy in such a way that they can be touched by the purest and clearest part of you. This part of you does not stem from the books you read or the skills you have learned. It is the result of a personal alchemy, a personal transformation of consciousness that bears your unique hallmark. I would like to strongly emphasize this, as there seems to be a tendency among lightworkers (people who by their nature feel a strong urge to help others) to keep searching for a new book, a new method, a new ability that can help one be a better teacher or healer. True healing is this simple.

When I lived on earth, I conveyed a certain energy with my eyes. Something flowed out of my eyes that had an immediate healing effect on the people who were open to it. This was no magic trick or some unique skill I owned. I was in touch with my inner source of truth. I naturally radiated the divine light and love that were my heritage – just like they are your heritage – and I touched other living beings with it. It is the same with you. You are no different from me. You have walked the same inner road and gone through the same trials and sorrows to eventually get to the same point as I did when I lived on earth. You are all becoming conscious, Christed beings.

The Christ energy is your spiritual destiny and you are gradually integrating this energy into your day-to-day existence. It is the Christ within you who heals and teaches as a natural consequence of who the Christ energy is. Too often you still identify yourself with being the apprentice or the pupil who sits at the feet of a teacher and listens and asks and searches. But I am telling you that the time of being a pupil is over. It is time to claim your mastership. It is time to trust the Christ within and to bring this energy to manifestation in your everyday reality.

To become one with the Christ within and to teach and heal from that energy, you need to let go of a number of things. These things represent the pitfalls on the road to becoming a healer/teacher. I will differentiate among three areas in which these pitfalls occur.

The pitfall of the head

The first pitfall lies in the area of the head or the mind. You are very adept at analyzing things and categorizing them according to some general frame of reference. This might be handy in some circumstances but in general the mental, thinking part of you is very much a part of the world of duality. With the “world of duality,” I mean a type of consciousness that divides things into good or bad, light or dark, healthy or sick, masculine or feminine, friend or foe, etc. It is a type of consciousness that loves to separate and label and that does not recognize the underlying unity of all phenomena. It is a type of consciousness that likes to work with general principles and a rational, objective application to individual cases. It does not really consider the possibility of another, much more direct approach to reality: the approach of intuitive knowing, or “knowing by feeling.”

The Christ energy is outside of duality. The Christ energy constitutes the flow of Being that underlies all polarities. But the mind does not recognize the very existence of this mystical level of oneness. The mind would like to split up the ocean of Being into definable parts, categorizing it in such a way that it can get a rational grip on it. The mind likes to design structures, theories that can be placed over reality, over direct experience. Again this is sometimes useful and beneficial, especially in practical matters, but not so much when it comes to true healing and teaching, i.e. healing and teaching from the heart.

When you approach your client from a theoretical framework, you try to place their individual symptoms into a general category and you look to the theory to find out about this type of problem and the solutions to it. This is what you learn when you are trained to be a psychologist, social worker or any type of professional counselor. I am not saying that all this is wrong. But what I would like to ask of you is this: when you are working with someone, whether professionally or in your personal life, try to let go of all your thoughts and reasoning, all of your presumptions about what is the matter with the other, and simply listen from your heart. Tune into the other person’s energy from a silent place within. Try to just feel with your heart and intuition where the other person is standing, what it feels like to be in their inner world. (See end of the channeling for a guided meditation to this effect.)

Often you foster a lot of ideas about what someone else needs to do to solve their problems. You analyze their problem and you think up the answer to it. And you may even be largely right in your thinking. But the point is: your ideas are not necessarily attuned to the energy of the other person in the now moment. You might be completely out of touch with how they actually feel inside. Your help is only fruitful when it is attuned to the energetic reality of the one you are helping. It might be that he or she needs a wholly different approach than you can fathom with your rational mind.

I invite you to see and feel the other person purely from the still, intuitive place inside you. Allow yourself to transcend duality and to be filled with the compassion of the Christ within. I invite you to really be inspired by the presence of the other, when you offer them teaching and healing.

The solution is then often very simple. What is needed from you is not your knowledge but your wisdom. What is asked of you is not your judgment but your compassion and deep understanding. You are not there to provide the solution, to be the face of authority. You are there to be the face of love.

Let us turn to an example to illustrate this issue. Take parents who want to help their children with problems they encounter. Due to their experience, parents can often make better assessments of the consequences of certain actions than their children can. On the basis of this knowledge, parents often warn their children; they want to save them from harm and they advise them to do what they think is the right thing to do. This might seem to be a good way of helping, from the mind’s point of view. And in some cases, it is very reasonable to do so.

However, very often, if a parent would tune into the child from a silent, intuitive place inside, the parent would find out that what the child truly needs from them is something else entirely. What the child often needs most is the trust and reassurance of the parent. “Trust me, let me be who I am. Let me make mistakes, let me stumble and keep your faith in me.” When you connect to your child from a place of trust, you are in fact encouraging them to rely on their own intuition. This may help them make a decision that feels good to them and that is understandable from your point of view as well. If, however, you try to make your child do something from the notion that “you know better,” your child will sense distrust in your attitude and this will cause them to resist you even more.

Children “read” you when you offer them assistance. It is in the nature of children to be keenly aware of the emotions behind your words. They can sense your underlying fear or judgment. They will often react to this emotion instead of to your words and when they react with aversion, they seem utterly unreasonable. However the parent may be acting “too reasonable,” meaning that they do not recognize their own underlying emotions and are not trying to connect to the child in an open and honest way. To do so, the parent will have to let go of their preconceived notions and really open up to the emotional reality of the child. From genuinely listening to the cares and concerns of the child, a bridge of communication can be built.

I mention this example because it is so common and easy to relate to, and because we all know how difficult it is to support your children from an attitude of trust and openness. It is all aboutletting go – letting go of your ideas of “what should be,” your wishes and desires, and truly letting the other person be. To envelop someone else with a space of openness and true, heartfelt understanding is to offer real healing power to someone. Often what really helps the other is your total acceptance of how things are. It is when you are not trying to change something from the level of the mind that you truly connect to someone and open up the doorway to love and compassion for them.


The pitfall of the heart


The second pitfall you come across when you endeavor to be a teacher and healer is in the area of the heart. The heart is a meeting point of many energies. The heart center (or chakra) forms the bridge between heaven and earth and between the higher and the lower energy centers or chakras. The heart “collects” energies of a different origin and is able to recognize the underlying unity. The heart enables you to transcend duality and reach out to someone else with love and compassion.

The heart is the seat of your ability to tune into someone else’s energy and to feel what it is like to be that person. It is the center of empathy. Clearly then, the heart plays an important part in any form of spiritual teaching or healing. Many of you are naturalempaths – you have a natural inclination to sense moods and energies from other people. This ability serves you greatly when you work with people.

However there is an important pitfall connected to this ability as well. Your sensitivity towards other people’s energy may be so strong that you find it hard to distinguish between your own emotions and the emotions of someone else. Sometimes you absorb the other person’s energy so strongly that you lose your sense of self. You may want to help someone else so much, especially since you know how they are feeling, that your energies get mixed up and you start to carry burdens that are not your own.

When this happens, an imbalance occurs. You are giving too much. You overstep your boundaries when you let yourself be carried away by the suffering of someone else and go out of your way to help them. The energy you give “too much” of will turn against you. This extra energy goes out to the other person but does not contribute to the solution of their problem. The client may be unable to integrate or receive this energy, or they may be frightened by it, or it may simply go unnoticed by them. You will end up feeling tired, annoyed and frustrated.

You can tell when you are giving too much by the signals your body and emotions are sending out to you. Whenever you feel empty, frustrated or heavy after you have seen a client or tried to help someone generally, this indicates that you have been trying too hard.

When you offer teaching and healing from a balanced, centered standpoint, you feel free, alive and inspired. After the meeting with someone has ended, you easily draw back your energy and touch base with yourself. You let go of the other person and no cords or strings keep lingering between your energy fields.

If an energy link remains with the other person because you so dearly want him or her to get well or be happy, that link has a destructive effect on your energy. By staying preoccupied with the client, you will absorb their emotional energies too strongly. You will give of yourself to alleviate their burden and this is where an emotional dependence which goes both ways comes into being between the two of you. The client starts to lean upon you, and your well-being will become dependent on their well-being. This entanglement of energies is not helpful to the client and it is depleting to you.

Why does this happen so easily when you start to help people? Why is this pitfall so difficult to avoid, especially for lightworkers? Where does this painfully strong need come from to heal and make whole, and to make the world a better place? In part, this natural desire in you is explained by your soul history as related in the Lightworker Series (Part I of this book). You have an inner mission to bring teaching and healing to this world. But the tendency to give too much stems from a pain in yourself that you are not totally aware of. This pain makes you “overeager” in giving.

There is a pain and sadness in your heart that makes you want to reach out for a new way of being, a level of consciousness more attuned to the natural divinity of all that lives. You are homesick for a more loving and peaceful reality on earth. In your present incarnation, you have not come to explore the ways of the ego. You are tired and weary of that. You have come to answer to an ancient song of your soul. You have come to help restore peace, joy, respect and connectedness on earth.

Your emotional body has been scarred by many lifetimes in which you endeavored to bring down the light of your soul and you encountered resistance and rejection. You have come here with great reservations and at the same time the old flower of passion has not withered within you. You are here again! But now, due to the pain that you carry within, you are like delicate and sensitive flowers who need a strong foundation in order to flourish and grow. The foundation you all need is a firm sense of being grounded to earth and centered in yourself.

By being grounded I mean that you need to have roots into the earth, to be aware of how earth reality works, to know what the elements are that you have to deal with while living in a physical body. Sometimes you are so enamored with the spiritual that you forget to take good care of yourself and your body. You get “spaced out” or too idealistic and unreal. You would often like to transcend earth reality but it is only through the earth, by feeling at home and at ease with the element of earth, that your soul energy can bloom here.

By centeredness I mean that you need to be true to your own feelings, to your own sense of what is right for you. As a human being, you have an ego or individual personality that separates you from others. The ego serves a valuable function. It enables you to focus your specific soul energy into material reality. You do not want to give up your individuality to any kind of “greater good!” You are not here to eliminate your ego; you are here to let the light of your soul shine through your ego. You need your ego to manifest your energy outwardly.

Because of the pain you carry in your souls, because of your weariness of the old, because you want to reach out to the promised land of the New Earth, you can become ungrounded and lose your centeredness. You tend to push change where the situation is not yet ready, or you try to awaken people at a pace that is faster than they can handle. You become “overeager in giving.” This eagerness may take the form of great involvement with a good cause or of caring intensely for the well-being of others. But there is an impatience and restlessness at the heart of it. You may feel inspired for a time, passionate and involved, but you will be disappointed at some point and then you will feel exhausted and angry because you have depleted your energy resources.

The pitfall of the heart, the pitfall of giving too much, stems from not accepting reality as it is. There is an impatience and a restlessness in you which makes it difficult for you to let go. It makes it difficult for you to keep the right emotional distance from the people you are trying to help or the causes you are involved in.

You are teachers and healers, you do have a mission on earth. But to truly fulfill it, you – paradoxically – need to let go of that dire need to change things, because your eagerness to do so has an edge of pain to it, the pain of not feeling at home on earth as it is now. True spiritual change always starts from a foundation of acceptance. To truly become the teacher and healer you want to be, you need to embrace your own pain and heal it. You need to find peace with your own deepest emotions of fear and anger. If you do, you will find out that the urgent need to give to others or to be involved in a “good cause” makes place for a very quiet feeling of peace and acceptance. This is when your radiance truly gets a healing quality to it.

Letting go of other people’s pain and trials and completely allowing them the time and space to go through their own process may give you inner pain. This is because it brings you right back to your own loneliness and the sense of being lost in this earthly reality. The difference between this harsh and imperfect world and the reality you dream of, so much more pure and beautiful than this one, hurts you deep inside. It is your challenge to not run away from this hurt, to let it enter your awareness fully and to spread your angel wings around it.

Once you recognize your eagerness to help or fight for a good cause and become aware of the hidden pain in there, the part of not-accepting reality as it is, you can start to let go of it. As soon as you realize that your eagerness and impatience come from an inner pain and sadness, you can stop giving too much. You can focus on yourself and find ways to really be at peace with who you are. You can truly start to give to yourself.

This is when you become a fully grounded and centered lightworker, accepting of yourself and others. The only proper thing to do as a lightworker is to make your energy available to others. You teach and heal by radiating the “energy of the solution” that is present in your own energy field. Often you draw people to you with exactly the type of problems that you have gone through yourself. You have gone to the bottom of these issues yourself and therefore in these areas you have reached a knowingness and purity that have become part of your being. These are the enlightened parts of you. They are sacred and inviolable and cannot be lost. They are not built from learned knowledge that you can forget about. What you have to offer to others is not some tool or theory, it is youtransformed by life, experience and the courage to face your inner wounds.

The “lightwork” that you have to do in this regard will come to you without effort. It will be something that feels very natural to you. To find your mission, the thing you are “meant to do” in life, you only need to be aware of what you truly long for and do the things you feel inspired to do. When you do so, you will put your energy out into the world and others will be touched and inspired by it, sometimes in ways you may not even be aware of. There’s no more to be done, really. This is the lightwork you came to do.

Lightworkers who know the balance between giving and receiving will have more peace and enjoyment in their lives and therefore will radiate the “frequency of the solution” even more fluently from their energy fields. They are sensitive and empathic but they have a clear sense of their personal boundaries as well. They allow themselves to just as easily receive as to give and in that way both the flow of giving and the flow of receiving will become stronger in their lives.



The pitfall of the will
Now, I would like to discuss one more pitfall on the way to becoming a healer/teacher. I have mentioned one pitfall in the area of the head and one in the area of the heart and I would like to finish with the pitfall of the will.

The will can be localized in the solar plexus, a center of energy near the stomach. This center or chakra steers the ability to act, to manifest your inner energy outward on the physical, earthly plane. When the will is connected to your intuition, the quiet part of you that transcends duality, things will flow easily and effortlessly in your life. You will act from an inner sense of trust and knowing. When your solar plexus (which is also the center of the ego) is guided by the heart, you generally do the things you love to do and you feel joyful and inspired most of the time. The will (or ego) has then become the extension of the Christ within.

Often however when you try to help or guide others, you get out of touch with this flow. There is a part of you that wants to do too much. It seeks to achieve results by forcing or pushing things a little, even if your intuition tells you to let go or back off. Often it is your personal ego that craves visible results here. This has nothing to do with helping others! It has to do with a need for validation that you have, an insecurity which gets you out of touch with the natural flow of healing which is often slower and more unpredictable than you wish it to be.

You do too much when you feel like you are working very hard and your input is not really received or appreciated by others. Also when you have separated yourself from the natural flow of things, you often get distracted by outside judgments. You tend to rely on other people’s ideas and expectations and you are afraid to fail in their eyes. The key to regaining your strength is to not do anything and to become really quiet within. It is only when you connect to your heart again that you can tune into the situation from a quiet and neutral space. Then your fear and insecurity disappear into the background and you can truly focus on what your client needs from you.

Often you do not need to do so much for him or her. You are first and foremost asked to be with them and to offer them “the energy of the solution” in a simple and direct way. You need to trust thepower of your presence, even when you do or say nothing. Dare to be in that silent space when you are with someone. When you trust yourself, you will know in that moment what the appropriate thing to say or do is. Remember that often when it comes to offering guidance, less is more.



Letting go is love
Overcoming the pitfalls I described above always involves a type ofletting go. It is about letting go of thinking too much, letting go of identifying too much emotionally and letting go of excessive use of the will. If you let all that go, however, and surrender to that most wise and compassionate part of you, you will find deep joy and fulfillment in your “work” as a teacher and healer. As the lightworkers that you are, you will experience a deep sense of self-realization and freedom. In being a teacher and healer in whatever way you express it, you feel connected to the Whole, to the oneness that underlies All That Is. Feeling part of this “fabric of Spirit”, and playing your natural part in it make you feel like you are truly accomplishing your mission.



Meditation
This is an exercise that may help you get in touch with the issues mentioned in the channeling in a more direct, emotional way.

Sit or lie down in a comfortable position. Focus your attention on the muscles of your shoulders and neck and release any tightness or tension there. Do the same with the muscles of your abdomen, your arms and your legs. Then travel with your consciousness to your feet and feel your connection to earth. Feel how earth is carrying you and providing you with the security you need. Take a couple of easy breaths from your abdomen.

Now let your imagination take you back to a moment in time when you felt very down and unhappy. Take whatever situation comes up first. Go with it. Think again of that time in the past, of how you felt inside.

Then go to the “energy of the solution.” Ask yourself: how did I get out of this? What helped me most of all? The energy that helped you the most may have come from yourself or from someone else; that doesn’t matter. Just consider the kind of energy that lifted you from the lowest point.

Now let go of the past and think of someone in the present who is dear to you and who you have some concerns about. It might be your partner or child, or a colleague or friend. Let that person appear to you in your imagination and really take in their presence. Then ask: How can I help you? What would be the most valuable thing I could do for you? Listen with your heart. What is the other person showing you or saying to you? Feel the answer. Just allow it come to you.

Let go and focus your attention on your feet again, to your breathing, and return to the present.

The goal of this exercise is to become aware of what is truly helpful in a situation of emotional crisis or pain. This may be quite different from what you think is helpful.

© Pamela Kribbe 2005
www.jeshua.net

:: 成為療癒者路上的陷阱 ::


親愛的朋友，帶著喜悅和快樂，歡迎你們聚在這裡，聽我—你們的老朋友—說話。我是約書亞，曾在地球上以耶穌的身分生活過。我曾是人類的一員，知道身為一個擁有肉體的人所要經歷的一切，所以我來到這裡，要幫助你們理解自己到底是誰。

所有今天會讀到這一篇文字的人，都是光之工作者。你們是光之天使，卻忘了自己是誰。在地球之旅的很多世裡，你們都歷經了種種的考驗。我知道你們所經歷的一切。

你們此刻來到了自己靈魂歷史上的某一點，正在完成生命的大循環。在這個點上，你們跟自己真正所是的「大我」之間的連繫越來越緊密—「大我」就是超越時間與空間的那個「我」。你們正逐漸允許自己那更大的、非物質的「我」進入塵世生命、進入日常生活之中。

要和你們的大我或者說高我保持穩定持久的連結，仍然很難，因為你們已經遺忘了自己就是這偉大的光之源。不過你們都已經開始了內在的旅程，旅程中感受到一種渴望，甚至是召喚，想要去幫助別人完成內在成長和自我覺醒。對光之工作者來說，想與他人分享自己的洞見和經驗，是非常自然的，你們都是天生的老師和治療者。

當你開始成為老師或治療者去引導別人時，很可能會踩到一些陷阱。你之所以會掉入這些陷阱，是因為人們對於何謂「以靈性引導」有些誤解，而這些誤解則是來自對治療的本質和你在其中的治療者角色的錯誤想法。我想談談這些陷阱。

什麼是治療？

什麼是治療的本質？不管是心理、情緒，還是身體層面，在一個人「變好」的過程中，到底發生了什麼？事實上，在此過程中，這個人重新與自己內在的光、與自己的大我連接了。這種連結在自我的所有層面都產生了治療效果—無論是情緒、身體，還是心智層面。

 每個人在治療者或老師那裡真正尋找的都是一個能量空間，這能量空間可以使他們與自己內在的光—內在完全知道和理解這一切的那個部分—重新相連。而治療者或老師之所以能夠提供這樣一個能量空間，是因為他們已經在內在完成這樣的連結。治療者擁有可以解決來訪者問題的頻率，所以，成為治療者或導師就意味著攜帶那可以解決問題的能量頻率，並把它獻給別人。就是這樣，如此而已。

基本上，這個過程無須透過語言和動作就可以發生。作為導師或治療者，你的能量本身才是真正有治療作用的。你那發光的能量可以開啟一種治癒的可能，別人因此「回憶」起他們內在一直都知道的智慧，連結他們的內在之光，連結他們的直覺。就是這回憶和連結讓療癒發生。因此，所有的療癒事實上都是自我治癒。

所以治療和教導，與在書本上和課程上能夠學來的專業技巧和知識沒有關係。治療能力不可能透過外在得到。真正有關的，是你透過自己的內在成長獲得的「解決問題的頻率」，這頻率就呈現在你的能量場中。一般來說，即使是導師或治療師，你們也都還處在自己的個人成長過程中，不過你們能量場的一些部分已經足夠清澈和純淨，可以為他人帶來治療的效果。

你必須了解，這樣的治療效果不是可以爭取來的，只有你的來訪者才能決定他自己是否想要吸收你提供的頻率，他才是做選擇的人。產生治療效果的並不是你從別人那裡學到的技巧和知識，而是你內在所走過的路程，尤其是那些你已經在很深的情緒層面上走過的問題，你能夠提供幫助。在這些領域，你的光如燈塔般照亮了受阻的人們，溫柔地召喚他們從那些窒礙中走出。

在那些你已經治療過的自己的深刻傷痛的領域，你是真正的大師，是一個智慧來自於內在知識和真實體驗的人。所以，自我療癒是成為導師和治療者的真正關鍵。這樣，你創造出一個「解決問題的能量」，別人就有可能透過你而打開一扇自我療癒的門。

當你在治療來訪者或幫助周遭的人時，一般都會去「解讀」他們的能量。在聽他們說話時，你會直覺地調整到他們的頻率，給他們建議，或用能量治療的方法來療癒他們。但事實上，他們也同樣在解讀你。就像你在調整到他們的頻率，他們也有意識或潛意識地吸收你的能量。他們直覺地去感受你的一言一行是否和你整個人一致，是否符合你散發出來的能量振動。他們撇開你的言語和行動，去感受你的真實本質。

治療的真正突破就發生在來訪者閱讀你能量的時候，當他們在你的能量場中感覺到自由和安全，當他們覺得自己被一種意識場—可以給他們能量去信任自己內在知識的意識場—所包圍時，你所說、所做的一切都可以產生治療效果。而當你說的和做的與你的真實本質一致時，你的話語和行動就變成了光和愛的攜帶體，會把你的來訪者帶入他們內在核心的光與愛之中。

當人真誠地向你求助時，這個人就向你的能量場敞開了，這樣一來，他們就可能被你最純淨與清澈的部分所觸及。這個部分不是從你所讀的書和所學的技巧而來，是來自你內在已轉化的意識。我想強調這一點，因為光之工作者（那些生來就強烈想要幫助別人的人）經常會不斷搜尋新書、新方法、新能力，以成為更好的導師和治癒者，但是，真正的治療就像我說的那樣簡單。

我在地球上生活的時候，透過自己的眼睛傳遞能量。一些能量透過我的眼睛傳遞出去，對它敞開的人就能夠立即得到治療。

這並非魔法或我個人獨特的技能，我與自己內在的真實本源相連，自然而然就會散發出神聖的光和愛。那是我從神那裡繼承而來的禮物—就像你也從神那裡繼承這種稟賦一樣—而我對別人的影響由此開始。你們也是這樣，與我並無不同。你們也走過了同樣的內在旅程，走過了同樣的考驗和悲苦，到達我在地球上時所抵達的同樣的點。你們都正在變成有意識的、基督化的存有。

基督能量是你們的靈性天命，你們正逐漸把這種能量帶入每天的生活中。你內在的基督自有其教導和治癒的能量，然而，你們還是經常把自己當作學徒和弟子，當作一個坐在導師腳下去聽、問和尋求的學生。不過我現在要告訴你的是，當弟子的時代已經過去，現在是收回你們大師之能的時候了。現在你們需要信任自己內在的基督，並將這種能量展現於日常生活中。

要與內在的基督合一，並以那股能量去教導與治療，首先要放掉一些東西。這些東西是成為治療者及導師路上的陷阱，我會在這裡指出這些陷阱出現的三個領域。

一、頭腦的陷阱

第一個陷阱在頭腦或心智之中。你們都非常擅長分析和歸類，也許方便有效，但是總的來說，你思維的那一部分是屬於二元世界，諸如好或壞、光明或黑暗、健康或生病、陽性或陰性、朋友或敵人等。喜歡分別、喜歡貼標籤，而不是看到現象底下蘊含的統一性；喜歡用普遍性和理智的方法來對待個別事件。頭腦從沒考慮過還有另一種可能性，一種更直接進入真相的方法：直覺，或說「透過感覺」。

基督能量是在二元性之外，但是頭腦無法理解。頭腦喜歡把存在分成可以辨別的各個部分，把各個部分分門別類，這樣才能透過理性來了解。頭腦喜歡設計出可以套用在現實和直接經驗上的理論，當然，這有時候很有效、很有幫助，尤其是在一些實際的事情上，但是當我們面對真正的治療和教導時，它卻不再如此有效。真正的治療和教導是從心而發的。

當你透過理論架構面對來訪者時，會試圖把他們個別的症狀放入普遍的類別裡，透過理論尋找問題及解決方法。這是你在接受心理諮詢師、社工或其他職業諮詢師的培訓時所學到的。我並不是說這些都是錯誤的，但我想請你們這樣做：當你們在工作中或生活中面對別人時，試著把所有的思想和邏輯、所有你對於「他人身上到底發生了什麼」的先入之見都放掉，而只是單純地用心來聽。從內在寂靜的深處調整頻率，去感受對方的能量。請試著只透過你的心和直覺去感受對方到底處於怎樣的情境，去感受他們的內在世界。
        一般來說，在「對方應該如何去做，才能解決他們的問題」這一點上，你們總是想得太多，老是要分析他們的問題，絞盡腦汁想出答案。雖然大部分都準確，但真正的關鍵在於：你們的各種想法與對方此刻的能量並不一定一致，可能會與他們此刻的內在感受完全脫節。只有在能量和諧一致時，你提供的幫助才會有效。他們需要的是完全不同的方式，是你的理性頭腦無法了解的。

我請求你從內在那個寂靜、直覺之處去看、去感受，超越二元，讓自己充滿內在基督的慈悲。我請求你在提供教導和治療時，讓自己的每個引導都發自對方當下給你的感覺。

這種時候，解決辦法往往是非常簡單的。你真正需要的是智慧，而不是知識；你被要求給予的，不是判斷，而是慈悲與深刻的理解。你並不是為人提供解決辦法，或者提供權威的臉孔，你提供的是一張充滿愛的面容。


舉例來說，想要幫助孩子的父母，由於自己的經歷，所以對一些行為的後果設想得比孩子周到。也因為如此，父母常常想警告孩子，希望讓孩子免於受傷，會建議孩子去做自己認為正確的事。從頭腦的角度來說，這可能是提供幫助非常好的方式，有時這樣做也很合理。

但是，如果父母真正從內在的寂靜與直覺出發，將會發現孩子需要的是完全不同的東西。孩子需要的是信任和安慰。「相信我，讓我做自己。讓我去犯錯，讓我在跌撞中前行，但對我保持信心。」當你出於信任而與孩子連結，等於鼓勵他們信賴自己的直覺，這樣可以幫助他們做出讓他們感覺很好，你也覺得可以接受和理解的決定。但如果你非要以「我知道得比你多」的方式來管教孩子，孩子會覺得不受信任，而更加抗拒。

當你向孩子提供幫助時，他們會不停地「解讀」你。孩子天生就能非常敏銳地覺察到話語背後的情緒，可以感受到你隱藏的恐懼或批判，然後他們會對這個情緒而不是你的話做出反應，於是就顯得叛逆、不可理喻。父母則是表現得過於理性，也就是說，沒有感覺到自己隱藏的情緒，沒有以開放而坦誠的態度跟孩子連結。要做到這一點，父母必須放掉自己先前的各種觀點，向孩子的情感世界真正敞開，透過真心去傾聽孩子在意和關心的事物，建立一座溝通之橋。

二、心的陷阱

在走向導師和治療者的路上，你會遇到的第二個陷阱出現在心的部分。心是各種能量的彙集處，心輪在天與地、在較高和較低的能量中心之間搭建了一座橋梁。心「蒐集」不同來源的能量，並且知道它們內在的統一性。心靈可以讓你超越二元性，懷著愛和慈悲向人敞開雙臂。

心靈是感受能力之所在—和別人的能量協調一致，體會「成為他們」的感覺。它是同理心（empathy）的中心。所以非常明顯地，在任何形式的靈性教導和治療中，心都扮演了重要角色。你們之中許多人都是天生具有同理心的人—生來就很容易感受到別人的情緒和能量。

不過有個重要的陷阱和這個能力有關。你對他人的能量如此敏感，使得你想要分清楚哪些是你的、哪些是他人的情緒會非常困難。有時候你吸收了很多對方的能量，因此而喪失了自我。你知道他們的感受，所以可能會很想幫助對方，以至於雙方能量混合在一起，然後你會開始承受不屬於自己的負擔。

當這樣的情況發生時，就會不平衡—你給得太多了。當你因別人的痛苦而動搖，開始使用過多力氣去幫助他們時，就逾越了自己的界線。你給出的過多能量會為你造成麻煩，這些多餘的能量投向別人，卻沒有發揮作用。來訪者也許無法整合或接收到這股能量，他們也許被這能量嚇到，或者根本沒有注意到它。最後你會覺得疲憊、惱怒和挫敗。

你可以透過身體和情緒的信號來判定自己是否給得太多了。當你在跟來訪者見面之後，或者在嘗試幫助某人之後，感到有點空虛、沮喪或沉重，就表示你給得太多了。

從一個平衡的中心點出發，提供教導和治療時，你會感覺到自由、活力，並充滿靈感。而當會面結束時，你也可以很容易就收回自己的能量。你可以放開對方，沒有任何的牽絆存留在彼此的能量場之間。

如果彼此之間的能量連結繼續存在，是因為你非常想要幫助人，讓他們變得幸福快樂，那麼，這種連結對你們的能量是具有破壞性的。當你把注意力都放在來訪者身上時，你會強烈吸收他們的能量，並且想要給出自己來減輕他們的負擔，而這將在你們之間造成雙向的情緒依賴。你的來訪者會開始依靠你，而你的感受也會因為他或她而起伏。這樣的能量糾纏對你的來訪者沒有幫助，也會耗空你自己。

為什麼當你開始幫助別人時，這樣的情緒會如此容易產生呢？為什麼光之工作者如此難以避開這個陷阱呢？這種強烈想去治療和幫助、想讓世界變得更好的需要，到底來自哪裡呢？你們都有一種想要把教導和治療帶給這個世界的內在使命感，不過「給得太多」的傾向來自於自己沒有意識到的傷口，這個傷口—或者說痛苦—使得你們在給予時有些過於熱心。

你們心中都有一種痛苦和哀傷的感覺，讓你們想要努力創造出一種新的存在狀態，一個更符合所有生命自然神性的意識層次。你們都在想家，希望在地球上創造出更充滿愛與平安的實相。此生來到這裡，你們不是為了探索自我的種種，那已經讓你們感到厭倦和疲憊。你們這次來此，是為了回應靈魂裡那古老的吟唱，為了幫助地球恢復平安、喜悅、尊重和愛的連結。

你們的情緒體傷痕累累，因為在許多世的生命中，你們努力把自己的靈魂之光帶到世上，卻遭遇很多抵抗和排斥，所以這次來到這裡時，你們帶著謹慎的態度。然而你們內在的激情之花卻沒有凋謝，你們又來到這裡了！不過這一次，由於內在所攜帶的痛苦，你們就像柔弱而敏感的花，需要堅實的基礎才能成長、開花。而你們所需要的基礎，就是一種穩固扎根於地球、歸於自己中心的感覺。

我所說的扎根，是指讓你的根基扎入地球，意識到人世間的實相如何運作，了解活在肉體之中，有哪些東西需要面對。有時候你們太沉浸於靈性，以至於忘記照顧自己和身體。你們太過理想化、太不現實，常常希望超越地球實相，但只有透過地球、透過和地球上的各種元素輕鬆自在相處的感覺，靈性能量才能在此開花結果。

而我說的歸於中心，是指你們必須真實面對自己的感受，面對「什麼適合自己」的感覺。身為人類，你們都擁有與他人不同的自我或個性。這個自我有它存在的價值和功能，可以讓你們把獨特的靈性能量帶入物質實相中。你們不想為了「造福更多人」而放棄個性，你們不是來到這裡消滅自我，而是更讓靈魂之光透過你們的自我展現。你們需要自我來向外展現能量。

因為靈魂所攜帶的傷痛，因為古老過去的種種疲憊，因為想要趕緊到達新地球的應許之地，你們的根可能會扎得不夠穩固，因而失去中心。你們會在事情還沒有準備好時，就急於推動，希望有所改變，或者會試圖以別人還無法適應的速度去喚醒他們。你們變得「過於熱情地想付出」，這種過度的熱情可能會藉由善心或強烈關懷的方式表現出來，不過在這行為背後，卻是缺乏耐心和躁動。你們可能會有一段時間覺得歡欣鼓舞，熱情而投入，但在某一刻，你們會感到失望、筋疲力盡而憤怒，因為你們把自己的能量資源耗盡了。

心的陷阱—給得太多的陷阱—來自你們無法接受現實本來的樣子。你們內在有一種不安與焦躁，讓你們很難放手。所以，跟那些你們試圖幫助的人，或是有你們牽涉在其中的事件保持正確的情感距離，就變得很難。

你們都是導師和治療者，來到地球上的確帶著使命。不過矛盾的是，要真正完成它，必須要放開那種極度想要改變事情的需求。因為那種急切之中帶著傷痛，一種無法在此刻的地球上感受到自在的傷痛。真正的靈性改變始於接受，要真正成為導師和治療者，必須擁抱自己的傷痛，並治癒它。你需要與自己內心深處的恐懼和憤怒的情緒握手言和，如此你將會發現，急切的付出，開始被寧靜的平和與接納取代。這時候，你們所散發出的光才真正具有療癒的特質。

在他人承受痛苦與考驗的時候放手，徹底給他們時間和空間去走過自己的歷程，這個選擇可能會為你們帶來內在的痛苦，因為它把你們帶回孤獨與無助之中。這個世界如此不完美，與你們所夢想的純淨與美麗的世界天差地別，讓你們很受傷。不逃避這傷痛，讓它完全進入意識，張開你們的天使之翼擁抱它，是你們的挑戰。

一旦認出自己想要助人，或是爭取美好目標的渴望，並意識到背後所隱藏的傷痛，也就是無法接受現實本來面貌的那個部分，你們就能夠開始放手了。意識到自己的強烈意願和急切是來自內在的痛苦和憂傷，就能夠停止給得太多，而回歸內在，並找到與自己和平相處之道。你們就真正可以開始為自己付出了。

而這才是你們真正開始成為光之工作者的時候—扎根於地球，歸於中心，並且完全接受自己和他人。身為光之工作者，唯一可行之事就是向他人敞開自己的能量。你們透過散發自己能量場中那「解決問題的能量」，來教導和治療。通常你們會吸引到的人，他們的問題你們剛好都經歷過。在這些問題上，你們體驗得非常徹底，所獲得的純淨領悟，也已經成為你存在的一部分。

這些就是你開悟的部分。它們是神聖而不可侵犯的，也不會遺失，因為它們不是奠基於所學來可能會遺忘的知識上。你能提供給別人的，不是工具或理論，而是經過生命、歷練和勇於面對內在傷口所轉化成的自己。
        
從這個角度來說，你必須做的「光之工作」會毫不費力地自動到來，那是一件你覺得非常自然的事。想要尋找人生使命—你們生來就注定要做的事—只須去覺察什麼是自己真正的渴望，做那些讓自己充滿熱情的事，如此一來，你們就把自己的能量帶入這個世界，然後別人就會被感染和鼓舞。真的，沒有什麼其他的事要做了，這就是你們來此要從事的光之工作。
了解施與受的平衡之道的光之工作者，將擁有更多的寧靜和喜悅，所以，他們的能量場就會更頻繁地散發出「解決問題的頻率」。

三、意志的陷阱

接下來，我想談談另一個成為治療者或導師路上的陷阱。我們談過頭腦和心的陷阱，最後要談的是意志的陷阱。
意志位在太陽神經叢，也就是胃附近的能量中心，這個能量中心為我們的行動力掌舵。當意志與直覺相連時，生命總會流動得很順利；當太陽神經叢（也就是小我的中心）由心來引導時，通常會做自己愛做的事，大多數時候會感覺到喜悅而充滿靈感。於是，意志（或者說小我）就成了內在基督的延展。
然而，通常當你想幫助或引導他人時，就與這樣的流動脫離了。有一部分的你做得太多，即使直覺告訴你要放手也沒用。你渴望看到明顯有效的結果，這跟幫助人一點關係都沒有，反而跟你想要得到認同的需求有關。這種不安全感將你帶離自然的療癒之流，因為這流動往往比你期望的更慢、更無法預料。
當你很努力投入，卻沒有真正被人接受或欣賞時，就表示你做得過多了。而且，當你與事物的自然之流分開時，通常會被外界的看法擾動而分心。你會開始依從別人的意見和期待，害怕成為他們眼中的失敗者。而重獲力量的關鍵，就在於不要做任何事，內在要非常安靜，因為只有與心重新連結，才能從一個安靜與中立的空間審視情境，然後恐懼和不安就會消失，這樣才能集中精力在來訪者身上。
你不必為他們做很多，只要與他們同在，將那股「解決問題的能量」以簡單直接的方式提供給他們。你必須信任自己臨在的力量，與他人在一起時，要勇於進入那個寧靜的空間。當你信任自己時，你將知道在那個瞬間該說什麼、該做什麼。請記住，在給予指導時，給得越少，效果越好。

上面提到如何超越這些陷阱的方法中，都包含了放手—放掉「想太多」、放掉「在情緒上太感同身受」，還有放掉過度使用意志。如果你能夠把這一切都放掉，而臣服於內在最有智慧與慈悲的那個部分，你會在從事導師或治療者的工作時獲得深刻的喜悅和滿足。身為光之工作者，你將深刻體驗到自我實現和自由的感覺，感受到與整體、與一切萬有之下的合一有了連結。感覺自己是這靈性結構的一部分，並在其中扮演自己天生的角色，這會讓你覺得自己真正完成了使命。

靜心練習

這個練習可以幫助你們更直接、更感性地接觸到以上所提到的事物。
        
以一個舒服的姿勢坐著或躺著，注意力集中在肩膀和脖子的肌肉上，放鬆那裡所感受到的任何緊繃或壓力。然後用同樣的方式放鬆腹部、手臂和腿，再將你的意識放到腳上，去感覺與地球的連結，感受地球是如何承載著你，提供你所需的安全感。輕鬆地用腹部做幾次呼吸。


現在讓你的想像力帶你回到過去某個非常低潮和不快樂的時刻，進入最先浮現在你腦海裡的那個情境。回想那時候，你的內在有什麼感覺。

然後進入「解決問題的能量」，問你自己：「我當時是如何從中解脫的？什麼對我最有幫助？」那幫助你的能量可能來自你自己，也可能來自他人，這並不重要，你只要回想那將你從最低點帶出來的能量。


現在，放掉過去，去想一個和你親近的人，而你現在有點擔心他。那個人可以是你的伴侶、孩子、同事或朋友。讓對方出現在你的想像中，真切地感覺他們在那裡。然後問他：「我該如何幫助你？我能為你做的最有價值的事是什麼？」用心傾聽對方在表露什麼，在告訴你什麼。去感受那個答案，單純地允許答案來到你面前。


接著放掉這個想像，讓意識再次回到腳上，然後回到呼吸，最後回到當下。
這個練習是為了幫助你們意識到，在面臨情緒上的危機或痛苦時，真正有用的是什麼，這也許會跟你原先認為有幫助的事完全不同。

文章轉自 :: 心靈光中心Love & Light ::
http://divinelovenlight.blogspot.com/2011/08/pitfalls-on-way-to-becoming-healer.html?spref=fb 


原文出處 :【靈性煉金術】一書
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